Monthly Archives: February 2013

From the Rooftops!

I am thrilled to announce that I am hosting a brand new live radio show on Radio Maria ( called From the Rooftops.  The title of the show was inspired by this quote from Blessed John Paul II:

Do not be afraid to go out on the streets and into public places like the first apostles who preached Christ and the Good News of salvation in the squares of cities towns and villages. This is no time to be ashamed of the Gospel. It is time to preach it from the rooftops (World Youth Day 1993).

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Here is a short summary of what the show is all about:

The God of Love sent his Son into the world to remind us of the unchangeable principles of reason and faith.  From the Rooftops discusses current issues within society in light of the beauty and truth of Church teaching.  The goal of the program is to rekindle the desire for intimacy with the Lord by reconnecting the Catholic faith to the every day lived experience. With courage, decisiveness, and fidelity, From the Rooftops will help plant the seeds of faith in meaningful and relevant ways onto the hearts of young adults and those who feel disconnected from the Catholic Church.

The show airs live every Wednesday from 10:00am-11:00am Central Time. You can find all the archived programs HERE.

SPREAD THE WORD and shout it From the Rooftops!!

©2013 Deacon Harold Burke-Sivers


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The Truth in Love


The Truth in Love

In his inauguration speech at the start of his second term, the President made the following remarks regarding the redefinition of marriage in the United States: “Our journey is not complete until our gay brothers and sisters are treated like anyone else under the law … for if we are truly created equal, then surely the love we commit to one another must be equal as well.”

This statement typifies the “equal means being the same” principle of moral relativism. It fails to recognize the fundamental and intrinsic unity within the complimentarity of man and woman, it diminishes and undermines authentic sexual expression rooted in the love and life embrace of covenant relationship to subjective feelings mired in concupiscence, it distorts the meaning of “rights” and “freedom” to fit political rhetoric, and completely ignores the natural law.

Since many Catholics do not often hear or may be confused about the Church’s clear and unambiguous teaching in this area, I developed this short “Q & A” resource both as an apologetics teaching tool and a way to evangelize the culture by speaking the truth in love.

1. Why is the Catholic Church against homosexuals?

Many people often misunderstand or misrepresent the Church’s teaching on homosexuality. The Church is not against homosexuals. She never has been and never will be.

The Catechism of the Catholic Church says, “Basing itself on Sacred Scripture, which presents homosexual acts as acts of grave depravity, tradition has always declared, ‘homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered.’ They are contrary to the natural law. They close the sexual act to the gift of life. They do not proceed from a genuine affective and sexual complementarity. Under no circumstances can they be approved” (#2357).

The Church’s teaching on homosexuality is rooted in biblical principles, most notably Genesis 19:1-19, Leviticus 18:22-25; 20:13, Romans 1:24-27, 1 Corinthians 6:10, and 1 Timothy 1:10. Both the Bible and the Church’s Tradition condemn homosexual acts not persons, and prohibit other acts that violate the natural law such as fornication, adultery, and abortion.

Human sexuality and openness to the transmission of new life are intricately woven into the fabric of our nature, both physically and spiritually. Men and women are, literally, made for each other. The physical nature of men and women perfectly compliment each other according to God’s divine plan. That plan, articulated in the first chapter of Genesis, says that men and women are “made in God’s image and likeness.” God is Love and Life itself, and he created men and women to share his divine life, to be his spiritual children. Love and life are, therefore, intrinsic and essential to the complimentarity between men and women.

Again (and this cannot be overemphasized), homosexual acts themselves are objectively and gravely immoral—not the person with a homosexual orientation—because there is no communion of body and spirit, which facilitates openness to the procreation of new life. Homosexuality undermines the truth, fullness, and wholeness of sexual communion.

This does not mean that persons with homosexual tendencies are “bad people” and are “going to Hell.” This kind of thinking is fueled by ignorance and misunderstanding, and because of the Church’s consistent teaching, Catholics are often accused of discrimination against people of homosexual orientation. This is simply not true. The truth is that the Church recognizes the dignity of every human person and condemns social discrimination in all its forms. The Catechism continues: “[Homosexuals] must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. These persons are called to fulfill God’s will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord’s Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition” (#2358).

Clearly the Church, in accord with her social teaching, acknowledges and affirms the dignity of every human person. She recognizes the innate tension inherent in loving the sinner and hating the sin and, like Mary at the wedding in Cana, directs us to her Son who suffered and died for our sins. Saint Paul summarizes this point beautifully when he says, “I rejoice in my sufferings for your sake, and in my flesh I complete what is lacking in Christ’s afflictions for the sake of his body, that is, the church” (Colossians 1:24). In other words, homosexuals must be loved, respected and encouraged to participate in Christ’s Paschal Mystery by uniting the cross of same-sex attraction to the suffering Christ and cooperate with God’s will by living chastely.

2. But God made me this way. Why can’t the Church accept that?

“As [Jesus] passed by, he saw a man blind from birth. And his disciples asked him, ‘Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?’ Jesus answered, ‘It was not that this man sinned, or his parents, but that the works of God might be made manifest in him.” […] As he said this, he spat on the ground and made clay of the spittle and anointed the man’s eyes with the clay, saying to him, ‘Go wash in the pool of Siloam’ (which means Sent). So he went and washed, and came back seeing” (John 9:1-3, 6-7).

The man who Jesus healed was born blind, yet Jesus did not say to him, “Sorry, I can’t help you. You were born blind, which is the way my Father in Heaven made you.” The man was “born that way” due to a defect of nature that can be attributed to the continuing effects of Original Sin. His blindness was not his fault just like someone born with fetal alcohol syndrome, Trisomy 13, or spina bifida cannot be blamed for his or her condition.

Jesus became incarnate in the womb of the Blessed Virgin Mary and died on the Cross so that we “may have life and have it abundantly” (John 10:10). Through Christ’s passion, death and resurrection, and in cooperation with the grace of the Holy Spirit, God heals, elevates, and perfects our human nature, sometimes in extraordinary ways. Men and women are, by nature, supposed to see, hear, walk, etc. We are not naturally homosexual. Even if scientists found a genetic propensity toward homosexuality, what would this prove? Simply that, like the man born blind, something (not someone) is wrong, not right. Thus, when Jesus heals the man born blind, he is restoring the man to the nature that God originally intended from the beginning.

God made us in his image and likeness, and he knows that dwelling within the bodies he gave us is a transcendent language and meaning that speaks in and through our bodies. Therefore, we must discern whether the strong urges and longings we feel are concupiscent tendencies, which are carnal appetites whose end is self-gratification, or the language of the body, through which the Holy Spirit infuses man’s soul enlightening his intellect and will, and endowing him with the capacity and freedom to direct himself toward his true good. (See the Catechism, #1704 and #1705).

Consequently, homosexual persons are called to chastity and it is the Church’s sincere hope that “by the virtue of self-mastery (and) by prayer and sacramental grace, they can and should gradually and resolutely approach Christian perfection” (Catechism, #2359). The same hold true for a spouse remaining chaste within marriage or a single person remaining chaste until marriage.

3. Women and minorities were once denied rights. Homosexuals should have rights too.

Comparing the rights of women and minorities to homosexual rights is like comparing apples to oranges. This argument is often made from a defective sense of justice, saying that homosexual unions are a “civil right” and must be implemented for the sake of “tolerance, “diversity,” and “equality,” which misses the point entirely.

Being a woman or a minority is not a personal lifestyle choice. Being a certain race does not violate the natural moral law that comes from God. The natural law states that there is a transcendent truth planted within us to which we have access by reason alone (see Romans 2:15). The natural law is designed to make us free since “human freedom finds its authentic and complete fulfillment precisely in the acceptance of the moral law given by God” (Veritatis Splendor, #35). Man, then, is truly free and genuinely happy when he uses his free will to align himself with the transcendent truths of the moral life “as the response due to the many gratuitous initiatives taken by God out of love for man” (Veritatis Splendor, #35). Let’s look at a few examples of how these principles translate into human law.

It is required that all persons operating a motor vehicle wear a seatbelt. By its very nature, the seatbelt law denies drivers the personal choice of whether or not to wear a seatbelt. In this case, individual rights are subjugated for the common good since seat belts save lives and lessen the impact of rising medical costs.

Abortion and euthanasia, legal in some States, are clear violations of the natural law. Abortion takes the life of innocent, unborn children in the womb, and euthanasia violates the principle of justice, its core tenet being that some individuals have more value and worth than others based on their utility and efficacy. Even though these gravely sinful actions are legal it does not make them right. They clearly violate the rights and dignity of persons. Christians have an obligation not to follow them.

Many countries in the world have eliminated slavery and apartheid laws. These laws are wrong because all people are intrinsically valuable human beings who are not by nature property. Slavery and apartheid were about racial segregation, selective discrimination, and brutal oppression based on skin color. Laws that are in the best interest of the public are not based on individual rights or preferences. The redefinition of marriage attempts to change the true nature of a covenant relationship between one man and one woman by reducing it to an individualized lifestyle choice.

Furthermore, “equality before the law must respect the principle of justice which means treating equals equally and what is different differently, that is, to give each one his due in justice. This principle of justice would be violated if de facto unions were given a juridical treatment similar or equivalent to the family based on marriage. If the family based on marriage and de facto unions are neither similar nor equivalent in their duties, functions and services in society, then they cannot be similar or equivalent in their juridical status” (Pontifical Council for the Family, Family, Marriage and “De Facto’ Unions, no. 10).

4. Why does the Church care about whether someone is “gay” or not. It’s a private matter.

Society today fails to make the distinction between public interest and private interest. Society and the public authorities must protect and encourage what is in the best interest of the public, and the State must only guarantee freedom to pursue private interest. In issues of public interest, public law intervenes and issues of private interests must be referred to the private sphere. Marriage and the family are of public interest; they are the fundamental nucleus of society and should be recognized and protected as such. So-called “alternative lifestyles” are personal, private matters and public authorities should not get involved in this private choice. De facto unions are the result of private behavior and should remain on the private level. (See the Pontifical Council for the Family, Family, Marriage and “De Facto’ Unions, no. 11).

5. There are all kinds of families today. Same-sex couples are just another way to be a family.

The redefinition of marriage negates the necessity of mothers and fathers, and reduces parenting to a cliché: all you need is love. “[Children] would be deprived of the experience of either fatherhood or motherhood. Allowing children to be adopted by persons living in [homosexual] unions would actually mean … that their condition of dependency would be used to place them in an environment that is not conducive to their full human development” (Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith, Considerations Regarding Proposals to Give Legal Recognition to Unions Between Homosexual Persons, no.7).

The reality is that there are a number of families who do not have a mother and a father raising their children together (as in the case of death or divorce, for example). These situations, however, are a matter of circumstance, not design. “The fact that some married couples do not have children either because of infertility or personal decision does not determine the purpose of marriage. Exceptions do not invalidate but prove the rule; individual practices do not invalidate the objectives of an institution; variations do not nullify a norm. The inherent biological fact remains that marriage between a man and a woman will usually result in children which no shift in the realm of ideas, social trends or new technologies can change” (Same-Sex Marriage — Why Not? A Primer Question and Answers From the Canadian Bishops’ Conference). Marriage has been about promoting the relationship of the couple and the continuation of society. It has not been primarily about affirming the choice of one’s partner in life.

Being raised by a mother and a father who are married, however imperfect they may be, is a fundamental right that every child deserves and is in their best interest. “Marriage itself constitutes the most human and humanizing context for welcoming children, the context which most readily provides emotional security and guarantees greater unity and continuity in the process of social integration and education” (Pontifical Council for the Family, Family, Marriage and “De Facto’ Unions, no. 26).

6. Why can’t marriage be “redefined” to include two men or two women?

“The word ‘marriage’ isn’t simply a label that can be attached to different types of relationships. Instead, “marriage” reflects a deep reality – the reality of the unique, fruitful, lifelong union that is only possible between a man and a woman. Just as oxygen and hydrogen are essential to water, sexual difference is essential to marriage. The attempt to ‘redefine’ marriage to include two persons of the same sex denies the reality of what marriage is. It is as impossible as trying to ‘redefine’ water to include oxygen and nitrogen” (

“Today, many people see marriage as merely an adult centric institution because there is a cultural rift in the connection between marriage and children. For example, many children are born to unwed parents and couples who get married decide never to have children. As a result, an adult centric culture states that marriage is merely the public recognition of a committed relationship between loving adults. This describes something just for adults—a private relationship with no public benefit.

“In reality, marriage is a family centric institution and is the foundation of a stable family life. Therefore, marriage unites a man and a woman with each other and any children born from their union. This is what marriage is and does..

“Family centric marriage serves at the foundation of family life and society. It incorporates the common human desire of every person to know and be cared for by his or her own mother and father. Family centric marriage has a public interest and is in the best interest of every child without exception” (

7. The Church doesn’t have the right to impose its morality on homosexuals and tell them whom they can love and can’t love.

People can love whomever they want. The Church does not impose morality on anyone. She proposes principles rooted in objective truth and natural law oriented toward the good of all society. The Church’s teachings are not based on popular opinion or cultural trends.

“Exclusive attention to the individual, his intentions and choices, without referring to the social and objective dimension, oriented to the common good, is the result of an arbitrary and unacceptable individualism that is blind to objective values, against the dignity of the person, and harmful to the social order. ‘Therefore, it is necessary to promote a reflection that will help not only believers but all men of good will to rediscover the value of marriage and the family. In the Catechism of the Catholic Church, we can read: ‘the family is the original cell of social life. It is the natural society in which husband and wife are called to give themselves in love and in the gift of life. Authority, stability and a life of relationships within the family constitute the foundations for freedom, security and fraternity within society’” (Pontifical Council for the Family, Family, Marriage and “De Facto’ Unions, no. 12. Also see the Catechism of the Catholic Church, #2207 and #2332ff).

©2013 Deacon Harold Burke-Sivers


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